Head in the Crocodile's Mouth

Ever heard of this phrase? Well this is something which has occurred to me - as part of certain experience with a renowned builder of the NCR Delhi area (let's call this builder as big O, big as in bully).

I had the misfortune of applying to one of the schemes about to be launched by big O in the Noida / Greater Noida area. I paid a certain amount of money initially (M1). After 2 years the big O and broker (more on him in the paragraph below) misled me to pay some more money (M2). They told me the project had approval which was a complete lie and when the project failed to take off they refused to refund the money.

And to  make the pain worse this was suggested by a broker (let's call him A1) who happened to take care of some of my property matters (he was also a close family friend or so I thought, which was not the case as I came to know later to my regret) . This taught me another invaluable lesson that property dealers are simply crooks for lack of a better word and trusting them with your money is akin to financial suicide. The property dealer is wholly capable of buying house from one of his brothers and selling to another brother for the commission.

Coming back to big O, after many years of follow-up big O suggested that refund is out of question and I should take up house in another project. I was asked to pay some more money (M3) as booking amount to big O because big O said they are a branded company and blah, blah, lies, lies, and more lies. Big O and A1 misled me to believe that this was an approved project but what I came to know that this second project was also not approved at that point in time and another round of harassment by big O and fruitless follow-ups from my side ensued.

I was also misled by A1 to pay the booking amount (M3) even though big O was sitting on a huge pile of my cash already (M1+M2). What I understood much later was that this was a trick played by A1 and big O (brothers in all shady deals) so that I am on a weak wicket legally speaking.

Then came a representative of big O, a gentlemen who swore by big O's name and goodwill (let's call him A2). A2 came to my residence and said big O is a good company, blah, blah, lies, lies, and more lies. After 6 months of discussions and agreering to big O's unfair terms and conditions, the matter hasn't moved much.

I am now feeling as if my head is in the crocodile's mouth. When your head is in the crocodile's mouth, it means:
  • If you try to pull your head out, you'll have to loose your head to the crocodile.
  • If your head stays any longer in the crocodile's mouth you'll loose it. If the crocodile is more wicked than you assume it might try to pull your neck, torso and more into it's mouth.
Now replace crocodile with big O.
  • If I try to get out of big O's grip I loose my money (M1+M2+M3). I may get a refund but no interest and no compensation.
  • If I continue pursuing big O it will force me to accept it's unfair terms and conditions. If I go further with big O, Iexpose myself more.
As big O is just a name, no trust, no professionalism and no ethics my head is literally in the crocodile's mouth. However, in this battle between me (you can me H) and big O, it's always the case that individuals lose to institutions. So I know I will loose. I can see big O, the crocodile with its open mouth. In fact, I also see more people like me - individuals fight separately and loose collectively against any battle with institutions.