What Happens When You Are Physically Attracted To Someone?

There are several occasions in your life when you get physically attracted to someone.

Someone of the opposite sex, obviously!

There are times when you meet this person only once.

She may be someone you happen to pass by or notice when you are in a market, mall, railway station, airport, bus stand, hospital, clinic, etc.

Or someone you happen to meet with or talk to while traveling, attending a training or conference, social function, etc.

Or someone you happen to catch a glimpse of quite fleetingly while driving through or traveling by a taxi or a cab.

You like her for certain reasons.

You like the twinkle in her eyes.

You like her smile and her teeth when she smiles.

You like her figure and enjoy that when she is passing across.

You like her dressing sense.

You like her body hugging clothes and imagine several things in your head.

You like her tight fitting clothes and imagine several things in your head.

You like her body revealing clothes and imagine several things in your head.

You imagine going to bed with her.

There are, however, times when you meet this person several times.

She could be your neighbour.

Or an office colleague.

Or a member of your team itself.

Or someone superior to you in the office.

Or someone who is your subordinate and who reports into you.

You get to know that she is not married so you also imagine that she could be open and ready for emotional and physical relation with you.

You get to know about her emotional and physical vulnerabilities and develop some feeling and compassion for her.

You go with her on work related trips so that you can be physically close to her.

You imagine making love to her while on such trips.

You like her voice and how she talks.

You wait every day to have a glimpse of her.

You stealthily view the contours of her body as much as you can and relish that a lot.

You try to have as many face to face interactions with her as you can.

You even think of her at times while making love with you wife.

You check her whatsapp profile frequently.

You check her and her friends facebook profile frequently.

You keep a track of her profiles on other social media channels.

You search for her pictures on google.

You download her pictures and keep looking at them.

You also edit and crop her picture.

You enhance and modify her picture to get some sort of vicarious physical pleasure.

You are tempted to do the above, again and again.

You are under some kind of intoxication!

You know it is more of physical and sexual attraction,

You know it is carnal.

You know it is a desire for physical contact that is driven by lust.

You know it is just some kind of infatuation.

You also know you got to be careful with this kind of thing.

And you also know clearly that you could get into trouble if you don't handle it properly.

So you exercise care and caution.

And make sure you keep things only in your mind!

How To Not Only Survive But Thrive While Working From Home?

On the face of it, working from home (WFH) looks to be quite appealing.

After all, WFH brings lot of good things to the table.

Such as:

• One can save lot of time and energy that is spent on commuting to the office and then back home as also other travel required for professional reasons
• One can transition from workspace to personal space almost instantaneously so anyone staying far away from their office is back home the very moment she shuts down the office laptop!
• One can spend more time at home and with their family, spouse and children and even pets
• One can stay away from office gossips and several unproductive activities that one may have to willy-nilly indulge in while at the office
• One can take care of certain simple and quick household chores at home during the work time which would have not been possible if one were working at the office
• One can find it easier to schedule meetings since meeting room availability is not an issue in the virtual world
• One can tend to feel more equal to others since the size of one's cubicle or cabin at the office becomes irrelevant and everyone is just a circle on the screen with some initials or an image! 

However, WFH comes with its own set of challenges and pitfalls too.

Here are some of the major ones:

• Lack of social and emotional connect with your colleagues
• Thin line between work time and personal time
• Blurring of work environment and personal space as personal space provides the physical aspect of work environment for performing work in the virtual mode
• Too much and very frequent disruption while working
• Strain on eyes due to excessive time spent in front of the laptop screen
• Adverse impact on physical well-being since
• The physical venue of every virtual meeting is the same every time - in front of the laptop!
• There is not much walking to do to reach the office cafeteria, one might as well be working just next to the dining table in one's home
• There is not much walking to do to reach the office washroom, one might as well be working just next to the washroom in one's home
• There is not much walking down the office corridors to visit a colleague's cubicle or cabin and of course no corridor conversations are possible!
• Adverse impact on mental well-being since
• The interactions with your colleagues become lesser
• The interactions, if and when they happen, typically tend to be highly work-centric
• The socializing done in virtual mode has severe limitations 

So how does one not only survive but thrive while working from home?



Here are some ideas and points that may be of great use:

• Develop empathy for your office colleagues:
• Expect to overhear a colleague's family and children on certain occasions while you are having a meeting with her
• Calibrate your management style, in case you manage people:
• Focus on deliverables and outcomes and not on hours
• Maintain close watch on who will do what and by when
• Invest time to understand the person behind the team member
• Keep the team motivated
• Exhibit patience:
• Take it easy when someone is late by a couple of minutes, occasionally, as virtual meeting may also overshoot beyond its planned end time
• It is easy to overshoot in virtual meetings because there is no one waiting outside the virtual room for the next meeting!
• Stay physically healthy:
• Get up and go away from your laptop once in a while as possible and move your body, stretch it a little bit and also relax your eyes
• Take care of your eyes and fingers since in the virtual world, your eyes and your fingers become the most important organs of your body to navigate your way through!
• Stay mentally healthy:
• Call the colleagues with whom you have good personal equations occasionally
• And as you do so avoid using the official channel, call on their personal number from your personal number
• Spend some time on yoga and meditation and mental relaxation exercises to stay calm, relaxed and focused
• Take leaves occasionally when you are totally away from your laptop, which is the gate to the office in the virtual world!
• Develop empathy for your family:
• Remember they need to do much more than the usual to take care of your needs as you are at home
• Don't forget that your family is not used to seeing you so much and in some sense you are barging upon their routine when you are working from home!