How to Handle an Intimidating, Inflaming and Immature E-mail

Many a times you would receive an e-mail which is written in a "not so good taste".

The person who sent it might feel great when sending it.

But will realize how dumb he really was to even send such an e-mail in the first place.

And if he doesn't. then he is even dumber than just dumb!

By the way, such people might otherwise sound quite mature but if they do such things, it is obvious that they are carrying several chinks in their armour.

Such e-mails are intimidating.

They test your courage in keeping quiet and not responding to that e-mail likewise.

Such emails are inflaming.

They test your patience in controlling your emotions in face of strong provocation.

Such e-mails are immature.

They test your maturity in calibrating your approach to take care of the big picture.

Also, as you read such an email, the realisation that the person who sent it is immature and childish will give you the right perspective.

Mature people do not throw tantrums when they run out of arguments.

Mature people do not send e-mails written in a "not so good taste".

They discuss the differences with the other person.

And try to resolve differences through dialog and deliberations.

And do all that in a open-minded manner.

So the first and the only thing to do, is to write tersely, may be just a one-line, about setting-up a discussion on the issue at hand.

Do not try to resolve anything on the e-mail.

Focus on setting-up a discussion and resolving the differences in that.

Never, ever, write an e-mail in the kind.

Since if you do that, then you are perhaps a bigger idiot than the idiot who sent the first such email in the first place.

Stop the strong urge you might have to shoot back a stinging response e-mail adopting a nastier tone than the nasty tone in the e-mail you received.

Never do that.

It is a fact, that such an e-mail reflects everything about the person which sent it rather than anyone else including the recipient.

The person sending will have something going on in the background like:

  • He is mentally quite weak and vulnerable otherwise and sending such e-mails gives him a sense of "false" victory (it is all fake though and quite ephemeral)
  • He has other problems in life and uses such an e-mail to vent out his pent-up frustrations and feelings of despair (again it gives a false sense of comfort and for a short time)
  • He feels threatened in terms of his power and position and is indirectly asking that he be given respect (genuine respect is earned through actions and not because of the position you hold)
  • He has problem with managing his ego which might have got bloated up without him even realising it and such e-mails help pamper it (bigger ego than one's actual status will always lead to trouble, and ego pampering can make it even worse)

The moment you understand the underlying psychology behind such an email you will have mixed feelings.

You will feel pity for the person sending such an e-mail as that person might be requiring psychological interventions to correct the behavioural traits.

You will also feel elated at the fact that you did not over-react to an e-mail that was nothing but an over-action from someone who needs psychological help.

Of course, you should never suggest this to the sender.

You can have empathy and compassion, but maturity requires that you must stay quiet.

The biggest reason is, you must focus on getting what you want from the person sending such an e-mail.

And only on your problem.

If that person realizes his problem, then that is good.

If not, that is not your problem.

And it never was.

So, stay away from it altogether.

Don't Waste Your Time, Spend It Carefully on Things that Matter to You

Your life has an expiry date.

That means you have finite time at your disposal.

You might get this incorrect impression time and again that you have a lot of time in your hand.

And that you have many more years to go before you will drop dead!

However, that is not the case.

Once you are clear about this, you should exercise care and caution in how you spend your time.

If you do not spend your time on things that matter to you in the real sense, your time goes for a waste.


So, how do people end up "wasting" their time thinking mistakenly all along that they are "spending" it:
  • They attend training which is not really required
  • They attend meeting where they are not needed
  • They become a part of a networking group and indulge in unnecessary events and activities
  • They volunteer for things for which they should have refused to get involved with
  • They join groups and forums they should have stayed away from

What is the way to come out of this rut?

What is the way to ensure you spend your time and not waste it?

The key to this is to know the kind of person you are.

And what are the things that excite you and that you are truly passionate about.

Improving your understanding of and skills at the things you love is crucial.

Simply speaking, that is the only thing that decides whether your time was spent or was it wasted.

You should stop doing anything that you don't feel strongly about, or which does not excite you.

So, how can you stop "wasting" your time?
  • Stop attending that training which is not really required
  • Stop attending that meeting where you are not needed
  • Stop becoming a part of a networking group
  • Stop volunteering for things for which you should have refused to get involved with
  • Stop associating with groups and forums you should have stayed away from

Stop wasting effort.

And start spending it.

In both cases, you end up using the finite time at your disposal.

The difference is the impact it creates in your life.

If it helps to improve you in becoming better in something you love to do, then the impact is positive.

If it is anything else, it is a sheer waste of time.

Be prudent with your time and do only those things that you would really want to do.

And stay miles away from every other thing.

Don's waste your time.

Start spending it.

And do that right away.

Bhuvaneshwari Mata Temple - the Hidden Gem for Travellers in the Aravali Woods

As you travel on Sohna road from Sadar Bazaar in Gurugram towards Sohna, you would reach the Aravali woods in no time.

The Aravali woods are composed of several hillocks and the green belt covering them.

In case you stay in Gurugram or even the entire NCR, this is the place to go if you want to be in the "Hills"!

Well, hills you would not get.

But hillocks, yes.

The Aravali range spanning across Rajasthan and Haryana is a range of hillocks that provide several spots for travellers to explore.

One such spot is the Bhuvaneshwari Mata Temple.

Hidden well inside the Aravali woods and around 3-4 kms from the main Sohna Road is a gem of a temple called the Bhuvaneshwari Mata Temple.

For reaching Bhuvaneshwari Mata Temple, you need to take the road going along the Camp of 95th Battalion of BSF in the Bhondsi area.

Here are some pictures of the Bhuvaneshwari Mata Temple and its surroundings.


Lohagarh Farms - Some Pictures that Show Village Life and Some Adventure

Lohagrah farms is situated in the Aravalis at a short distance from the city of Gurugram.

It is built around the concept of village life and adventure.

It is essentially meant to provide the visitors a first-hand and close experience of village life - rural food, farms, farm animals, etc.

It also has some adevnture and thrill activities like obstacles, haunted house, etc.

Here are some pictures from a recent visit to Lohagarh farms.














Live Life One Second at a Time Since Some Second Will Surely be Your Last Second

Your life is nothing but a unique story of experiences of many seconds bundled and weaved together.

The key term is "seconds".

You may live for years and months but in reality, you live through many seconds for years and months.

You live your life across many seconds.

In fact, you live in seconds.

You came into existence at a certain specific second in eternity.

And finally, you will disappear into nothingness at another certain specific second in eternity.

Your life is the length of duration between the above two specific seconds.

That is why you should live one second at a time.

1, 2, 3, gone.

No.

Once again.

1, 2, 3, gone.

Still there.

Then once again.

1, 2, 3, gone.

And like that.

On and on.

Till you drop dead.

Living life one second at a time is the best way to live.

You should try your best to live in such a way that you live for as many seconds as you can but must always be ready and prepared to leave any second.

You should feel happy and blessed as you live through one second and must view the next second as your last one.

For a certain next second, you will absolutely be right!

And that next second will be your last second.