When Those At The Top Are Nonsensical And Unethical Too

In some organizations the folks at the top are not only nonsensical but unethical also.

They don’t want their work to be scrutinized by anyone.

In case you pose a logical and sensible question to them which has clear and direct business impact, but is uncomfortable for them and challenges their position, they will duck it in a manner which is utterly ridiculous.

In the name of “is it good for business” they don’t mind crossing the line of ethics, not once but as many times as required.

Ethics in such organizations is a direct factor of convenience.

As long as it suits their agenda (which might have many dirty secrets behind it) and doesn’t cause them personal discomfort and doesn’t make their position untenable they are all fine.

And if not, they will find silly reasons to justify their decisions and actions.

When challenged instead of discussing directly with you in a transparent manner they will have someone from their team come and meet you.

The message you get is “stay clear, better know who the top boss is and also that you are basically nothing”.

The pesky, boorish team member who comes to meet you walks in like a joker, sits next to you in an annoying manner while displaying fake friendliness.

He is the top man’s henchman, he is there on a contract-to-kill assignment. He is there to pass on the message from the god… oops… dog…. oops… top!

So silly!

So humiliating!

However, you need to carry on.

And you must carry on.

Pests and vultures will always be there in any organization.

And more so when those at the top are nonsensical and unethical too, you shouldn’t expect anything else!

If you do, then you are a fool or fooling yourself.

Don’t fool yourself.

Stop being a fool.

Why It Is Utter Nonsense To Think That You May Be Killing Yourself For A Job That Would Replace You Within A Week If You Were To Drop Dead

Some people might seem to suggest that it is a good idea to relax and take care of yourself in case you are working too hard.

This is fine.

You must take care of your physical and mental well-being at all times.

No only when at work but also when not at work.

Some people might also seem to suggest that you will get replaced within a week if your were to drop dead and hence you should not work hard.

This is just completely nonsense.

You will drop dead one day even if you don’t work at all.

If you enjoy your work and push yourself a bit occasionally and maybe push yourself hard once in a while, that should be alright.

Work accomplishments give you a sense of worth as an individual.

When you achieve something at work it makes you feel good about yourself.

And it is not that you are so busy every day that you can’t even find time to have your lunch.

So if you work hard once in a while, that shouldn’t be a problem at all.

Being relaxed is one thing. And it is okay.

Being complacent is another thing though. And it is not okay.

You have to have work in the first place to work.

And you have work because someone has given you one because you can contribute and add value.

If you need to work hard to contribute and add value you must do that.

You should not think of work as a mere time pass.

The above thought can be dangerous to your career and eventually life.

You can apply the standard tips and tricks to take care of work and life balance.

However, you should never forget that you need money to live your life.

And more money to live a better life.

And that you got to work to have money.

So if you want to live a better than usual life you need to work harder than usual.

Dropping dead is not a criteria that should bother you.

Working hard doesn’t have to necessarily mean dropping dead.

Although not taking care of yourself may mean dropping dead.

You should take care.

You should also work as hard as you can.

You should make as much money as you can.

And finally live a life as good as you can.

The thought that you will get replaced within a week if your were to drop dead and hence you should not work hard is just completely nonsense.

Just forget about that.

So enjoy your work.

Enjoy working hard.

Enjoy life.

The Home Affair Company

At times when you work somewhere you might wonder whether you are actually working in a company or not.

And whether the workplace is a family and not a company?

You get this feeling very often that your workplace is also a company but first it is a family.

The top guys ask the chosen select few to take care of their home affairs.

After all it is a family.

The chosen select few think they are special.

Why special?

Since the chosen select few take care of the top guys home affairs.

They take care of the top guys property deals.

They take care of things when the top guys or anyone in their families travel.

They take care of any problem the top guys face at their home.

Company may or may not be a family.

But the chosen select few are a family for sure.

The top guys carry an air of superiority.

They act as if they are highly professional but scratch the surface and the dirty underneath is visible.

They are really “Lalas” running a personal fiefdom in the name of a company.

And since the chosen select few take care of the top guys home affairs and are very well aware of their dirty secrets too what you have got is a cozy club of unprincipled folks.

The top guys decide what to be done not based on merit.

For the top guys who said what is more important than what was said.

They would show as if they are genuine and take the right and ethical decisions.

But that is never the case.

Their decisions are a matter of convenience and also dictated by their need to keep their dirty secrets covered up well.

And as far as ethics go, they believe in just spelling and pronouncing the word “ethics” right and with the right amount of earnestness but otherwise ethics mean nothing.

When they get their home affairs taken care of by the select few, what else can one expect regarding their decision making and their ethical conduct.

The Duplicitous HR Guy

He tells you lies.

And then he acts smart as if no one understands what nonsense he keeps on doing, again and again.

Such a duplicitous character.

He is in the good books of the top man.

The top man is equally cunning guy who puts up a fake front of being a genuine bloke.

Which the top man is not, in no way.

The duplicitous man is in the good books of the top man not because he is meritorious but because he is highly manipulative.

Both share similar bad attributes.

He plays silly games but thinks too highly of himself.

He tells you he doesn't know something with a bizarre look on his face.

You realize later on that he was lying.

He has always been lying earlier too.

Then you come to know he knew that thing earlier.

Such a mental retard.

Such a cunning, manipulative guy.

He fudges data.

He shows a picture as if everything in rosy.

As if "all is well".

When in fact most if not all is "in the well" and in a sense lost.

He is comrades with other folks like him.

He is a part of the cozy club, the cozy club of comical clowns.

He carries a funny and deceitful look on his face.

A face which carries a fake facade with a dirty layer under it.

Very dirty.

And stinky too.

He smells of conceit and arrogance.

As if he only matters.

And others don't at all.

Such a duplicitous guy.

If you have any such guy around you got to be careful.

You got to make sure you stay sound and safe.

When You are Trapped in a Failed Marriage

The Hindi movie "Kabhi Alvida Naa Kehna" has these lines in the scene where the marriage between the two protagonists comes to an end, a very sad end.

Female protagonist:
Taaki usko wo saari khushiyaan de sakun, jo usko ek football coach nahin de sakta
Kaisa laga ye sunkar, Dev
Bahut dard hua naa, now you know how it feels
Kyunki tumne mujhe dard ke siwa, kuch nahin diya hai
Main hamesha sochti thi, dard pyar mein diya jaata hai, par yeh sach nahin
Tum to mujhse pyaar hi nahin karte, tum kisi se pyaar nahin karte
Nafrat hai tumhe, nafrat hai tumhe apne aap se, apni zindagi se, apni nakaamyaabi se
Aur main aaj tak nahin jaan paayi, tumhe kis baat pe zyada gussa aata hai, apni nakaamyabi se, ya meri kamyaabi par

Male protagonist:
Yes riya, mein nakaamyab hoon, ye sach hai
Par jaanti ho, is ghar mein, mujhse bhi nakaamyab kya hai?
Hamara rishta, aur ye shaadi
Thank you Riya
Thank  you for letting me stay in your house Riya

The above lines so very clearly show what it means to be trapped in a failed marriage.

You don't get to choose your parents.

They give you birth and you have absolutely no control over the kind of parents you are born to.

You don't get to choose your kids too.

You have some control over when to give them birth but once you give them birth you don't have any control over the kind of kids you gave birth to.

However, you get to choose whom you marry.

Your spouse is chosen by you.

Very often you choose to marry the wrong person

And your marriage slowly but eventually turns into a failed marriage.

You then end up getting trapped in a failed marriage.

You get this strong feeling that the color and juice from your life has simply disappeared.

The person who should have given you love and care is not there for you.

You come back to home from a business trip after a few days thinking your wife would have missed you.

What you see however is your wife's sullen and swollen face instead.

That makes you feel sad and irritated.

You may vent your anger on your kids.

You feel bad but that's what you do.

You have a female colleague join you on the business trip so that you get some company that takes care of fulfilling some of your emotional needs.

Emotional needs of being able to talk to a person of another sex without the fear of being turned away and made to feel unwanted.

You may develop a feeling of some sort of attraction towards and infatuation for her.

You may want to have physical intimacy and even sex with her.

The talk may be business talk but there is talk.

In your life there is no talk otherwise.

You and your wife don't talk.

You only fight.

You want to be physically intimate with your wife and have sex with her.

However, she not only refuses to have physical intimacy and sex with you but reacts in a way that makes you irritated, unwanted and disgusted.

You wife makes all kind of excuses to deny physical intimacy and sex to you.

And she does it purposefully and deliberately.

A wife who harms and hurts her husband looses the right to be called as wife.

Life is not sex.

But when you marry someone that someone is not your room-mate

There is difference between someone being your wife and someone being a room-mate.

You wife doesn't understand that simple thing.

You have failed in making her understand this thing.

Slowly sex goes away.

Then physical intimacy goes away.

Then emotional intimacy goes away.

Then you stop caring.

Then you stop talking.

And then you find yourself in a failed marriage.

You are now trapped in a failed marriage.

Did the marriage fail or did you fail?

That's a question you should ask yourself.

In the end, it is actually you who fail.

Fail  not just in marriage but in life too.

You may feel that your life has become purposeless.

You may feel that even if you were to die you would be okay with that.

You urge to live longer and live more may just disappear.

You may be perfectly fine if you were to die this very instant.

Failed marriage may end up making your life shorter.

However, in the end this doesn't make a difference to anyone and even to you.

And its okay if you have had a failed marriage.

The only thing is did you try to salvage it and did you try to reverse it.

If yes, no need to feel bad.

After all, in life you can only do so much.

What happens after you have done your bit is something that is beyond your control.

You should not feel bad.

Not at all.

Maybe its your bad luck.

Or your are a wretched, lowly creature who was supposed to go through such an experience in life.

If that be so, so be it.

Better to move on.

Better to wait it out.

The end of the journey is never very far.

And all of us will end this journey in the same way.

All of us.